Leaving used to mean going somewhere he did not know. Now a woman can move across the country and still receive forty messages before breakfast, be tagged in a photograph that reveals which street she is on, or discover…
Ask a woman why she has not left and money is the answer more often than fear. Not because fear is absent, but because fear has an answer and rent does not. Financial abuse is deliberate and it is…
Many women first experience violence while pregnant. For many others, pregnancy is when existing violence becomes more severe or changes character. Midwives and obstetricians know this pattern well. Most women do not, and discover it alone at a point…
Women who have experienced both often say the same thing. The beating healed in two weeks. What he said took years. Emotional abuse is a sustained pattern of behaviour designed to make you smaller, more doubtful and easier to…
Nobody stays for the violence. Women stay for the fortnight afterwards, and that fortnight is the part almost nothing written about abuse takes seriously. If you have been told that you must not really mind, or that you would…
This article deals with rape and sexual assault inside marriage and long term relationships. It is written plainly, because vagueness on this subject helps nobody. You may want to stop reading partway and come back another day, and that…
