Almost nothing is written for this, and it is one of the commonest situations there is. A woman leaves, and then the money runs out, or the room ends, or a child cannot lose another school term, and she…
Ask anybody who works in this field which weeks are worst and they will name the same ones. Christmas and the New Year. The end of Ramadan and Sallah. The long visit to the village. Any extended holiday when…
A court date is one of the few occasions when somebody who has lost track of you knows exactly where you will be, on which day, at roughly what time, and that you will be there for hours. It…
Taking the phone is one of the commonest things that happens, and it is usually treated as an argument about a phone. It is not. It is the removal of your only private line to everybody outside the house…
Most safety advice quietly assumes you leave the house. Work is described as the one place a woman goes alone, the place a colleague might notice, the place a private call can be made. For a woman who sews…
Phones leak more than most people realise, and the leaks are usually things switched on for convenience years ago and forgotten about. One warning before anything else, and it is the most important paragraph on this page. If he…
Children in a violent home already know. Parents almost always underestimate this, and the underestimate is understandable, because the alternative is unbearable to think about. Children who were supposedly asleep describe arguments in detail years later. Children who were…
This is the hardest article on this site to write honestly, because the truthful version contains a sentence nobody wants to read. The period around leaving is when women are most often seriously hurt or killed. That is not…
Nothing in this article makes anybody safe, and none of it is your responsibility. What happens is done by the person doing it, and there is no correct behaviour that prevents it. What is true is that some decisions…
An emergency bag is the difference between leaving with your life and leaving with your life plus the ability to prove who you are. Women who leave without documents spend months rebuilding an identity while also trying to stay…
