Leaving frequently does not end the contact. It changes its form. A great many women describe more contact after separation than before, because the person who has lost control is trying to get it back, and because he now…
Most organisations do not write this page, because it is not a good look. We think the absence of it is worse. People arrive at a service at the worst point of their lives, and the least useful thing…
People who suspect something usually do one of two things. They say nothing for years, or they say leave him and are never told anything again. There is a middle path, and it works considerably better than both. Ask…
People assume the risk here is him messaging them. That is the least of it, and it is the part that is easiest to stop. The real problem is that an ordinary social media presence broadcasts a surprising amount…
Reporting is a decision, not an obligation, and it is yours to make. This article describes what tends to happen so that you can decide with your eyes open rather than discovering it at the counter. Before you go…
Most organisations write a privacy policy because they have to. This is the same information written as an article, because a policy is not much use to somebody deciding, right now, whether it is safe to send a message…
This is where leaving most often fails. Not at the door of the house, and not at the shelter. Six weeks later, at the point where somewhere temporary has to become somewhere permanent. The obstacles are specific and they…
If somebody checks the device you are reading this on, the fact that you visited a domestic abuse website is itself information you may not want them to have. This article explains what you can do about that, and…
HealBridge runs six programmes. They exist because these are the six things that decide whether leaving lasts, and because a woman who receives only one of them very often goes back. That is the whole design principle. A shelter…
There is a widespread belief that on divorce everything is divided equally. That is the position in some countries. It is not the general position in Nigeria, and women who assume it are frequently shocked. The realistic picture is…
